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03/20/2023 07:25 PM
Oh the drama! Our brains will feed us so much crap anytime we want to try something new. Even once you’ve decided you’re doing the thing, you will have moments of, “I must be crazy!” This happens to just about anything, not just career changes. We are programmed to do things easy. Our brains like comfort and ease.
But this other thing? The fear of what other people will think also can stop you dead in your tracks. Suddenly you feel like everyone will be watching you, waiting for you to fail. You may even hesitate to tell certain people what you’re planning on doing. I get it. I’ve been there.
When I left my nursing career to start my own business coaching, my dad was THE LAST person I told. And I’m really close to my dad. But I was so fearful that he wouldn’t understand and that he would make me feel like it was dumb. Newsflash…he didn’t. He did ask some questions. I still don’t think he understands what I do as a coach. But, overall, he supported me.
Yup, I said it. Most of those judgments you’re projecting onto other people, are actually your own fears. You think someone will wonder why you’re “throwing away” the previous career you’ve built. More than likely, that’s a question you’re also asking yourself. Take a look at my post here where I talk about 10 things keeping you from changing careers. It’s all the doubts that you come up with. It’s your brain trying to avoid the discomfort of what you’re about to do.
When we make changes in our own lives, especially ones that have to do with following a dream, it brings out insecurities in those around us. It forces them to face the things that they’re not doing. And one of the easiest things for them to do is doubt you, tell you you’re crazy, and maybe even secretly hope that you fail. Why would your BFF hope for this? I know, they’re supposed to be your ride or die BUT if you fail it just proves to them why they are right for NOT going after what they want.
So here’s an idea. Write it all down. Everything you think other people will say when you announce your career change, I want you to write it down. Then, be honest with yourself. Is this something you yourself are worried about? I can almost bet it is. Next I want you to respond to each worry. What is your plan for dealing with it or is it even a valid thought. Our worries come from our brains trying to predict the future, which we can’t do. (If you can, let’s meet!) This activity will give you some relief AND give you responses to any questions other people have for you. I actually have a worksheet you can use as a guide. You can find it at the bottom of this post!
Here’s the bottom line. In the long run, those who love you will be there to support you whether you succeed or fail in your career change. They will help you if you stumble. The most important thing is that you know WHY you’re doing this and keep that front and center in your brain. This way, when things get tough you can remember why you’re doing this thing and it will keep you moving forward! What matters most is what YOU think about this new adventure.
This worksheet will walk you through all the things that you "think" other people will say (or you will say) and what's the reality. It's really helpful and eye-opening!